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SEX 


AVOIDED  SUBJECTS  DISCUSSED 
IN  PLAIN  ENGLISH 

By 

HENRY  STANTON 


SOCIAL  MENTOR  PUBLICATIONS 

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SEX 


AVOIDED  SUBJECTS  DISCUSSED 
IN  PLAIN  ENGLISH 


By 
HENRY   STANTON 


SOCIAL  MENTOR  PUBLICATIONS 
200  FIFTH  AVENUE,  NEW  YORK  CITY 


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Copyright,   1922 
Social  Mentor  Publications 

MANUFACTURED    IN    U.  Ss  Aa 


DEC  27 '22 

C1A6960.61 


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CONTENTS 


PAGE 

I.    Sex 5 

II.    The  Transition  from  Cell  to  Human  Being  12 

III.  Sex  in  Male  Childhood 20 

IV.  Sex  in  Female  Childhood 26 

V.    Sex  in  the  Adolescent  Male      .....  30 

VI.     Sex  in  the  Adolescent  Female        ....  35 
VII,     Sex  in  the   Marriage  Relation    (The  Hus- 
band)      43 

VIII.     Sex  in  the  Marriage  Relation   (The  Wife)  45 

IX.    Sex  Diseases S3 

X.    Love  and  Sex        57 


CHAPTER  I 

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THE  happiness  of  all  human  beings,  men  and 
women,  depends  largely  on  their  rational  solu- 
tion of  the  sexual  problem.  Sex  and  the  part  it 
plays  in  human  life  cannot  be  ignored.  In  the  case 
of  animals  sex  plays  a  simpler  and  less  complex 
role.  It  is  a  purely  natural  and  instinctive  function 
whose  underlying  purpose  is  the  perpetuation  of 
the  species.  It  is  not  complicated  by  the  many  inci- 
dental phenomena  which  result,  in  man's  case,  from 
psychologic,  economic,  moral  and  religious  causes. 
Climate,  social  conditions,  individual  modes  of  life 
and  work,  alcohol,  wealth  and  poverty,  and  other 
factors  affect  sexual  activity  in  human  being. 

Sexual  love,  which  is  practically  unknown  to  the 
animals,  is  a  special  development  of  the  sex  urge 
in  the  human  soul.  The  deeper  purpose  of  the  sex 
function  in  human  beings,  likewise,  is  procreation, 
the  reproduction  of  species. 

The  average  man,  woman  and  child  should  know 
the  essential  sex  facts  in  order  to  be  able  to  deal 
with  the  sex  problems  of  life.  Of  late  years  there 
has  been  a  greater  diffusion  of  such  knowledge.  To 
a  large  extent,  however,  children  and  adolescents 
are  still  taught  to  look  on  all  that  pertains  to  sex 
as  something  shameful  and  immodest,  something 
not  to  be  discussed.    Sex  is  an  "Avoided  Subject." 

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This  is  fundamentally  wrong.  Sex  affects  the 
very  root  of  all  human  life.  Its  activities  are  not 
obscene,  but  Nature's  own  means  to  certain  legiti- 
mate ends.  The  sex  functions,  when  properly  con- 
trolled and  led  into  the  proper  channels,  are  a  most 
essential  and  legitimate  form  of  physical  self- 
expression.  The  veil  of  secrecy  with  which  they 
are  so  often  shrouded  tends  to  create  an  altogether 
false  impression  regarding  them.  This  discussion 
of  these  "Avoided  Subjects,"  in  "Plain  English/'  is 
intended  to  give  the  salient  facts  regarding  sex  in  a 
direct,  straightforward  manner,  bearing  in  mind  the 
true  purpose  of  normal  sex  activities. 

The  more  we  know  of  the  facts  of  sex,  the  right 
and  normal  part  sex  activities  play  in  life,  and  all 
that  tends  to  abuse  and  degrade  them,  the  better 
able  we  will  be  to  make  sex  a  factor  for  happiness 
in  our  own  lives  and  that  of  our  descendants.  Man- 
kind, for  its  own  general  good,  must  desire  that 
reproduction — the  real  purpose  of  every  sexual 
function — occur  in  such  a  way  as  to  perpetuate  its 
own  best  physical  and  mental  qualities. 

THE    LAW    OF    PHYSICAL   LIFE 

It  is  a  universal  rule  of  physical  life  that  every 
individual  being  undergoes  a  development  which  we 
know  as  its  individual  life  and  which,  so  far  as  its 
physical  substance  is  concerned,  ends  with  death. 
Death  is  the  destruction  of  the  greater  part  of  this 
individual  organism  which,  when  death  ensues, 
once  more  becomes  lifeless  matter.  Only  small 
portions  of  this  matter,  the  germ  cells,   continue 

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to  live  under  certain  conditions  which  nature  has 
fixed. 

The  germ  cell — as  has  been  established  by  the 
microscope — is  the  tiny  cell  which  in  the  lowest 
living  organisms  as  well  as  in  man  himself,  forms 
the  unit  of  physical  development.  Yet  even  this 
tiny  cell  is  already  a  highly  organized  and  perfected 
thing.  It  is  composed  of  the  most  widely  differing 
elements  which,  taken  together,  form  the  so-called 
protoplasm  or  cellular  substance.  And  for  all  life 
established  in  nature  the  cell  remains  the  constant 
and  unchanging  form  element.  It  comprises  the 
cell-protoplasm  and  a  nucleus  imbedded  in  it  whose 
substance  is  known  as  the  nucleoplasm.  The  nu- 
cleus is  the  more  important  of  the  twro  and,  so  to 
say,  governs  the  life  of  the  cell-protoplasm. 

The  lower  one-celled  organisms  in  nature  increase 
by  division,  just  as  do  the  individual  cells  of  a  more 
highly  organized,  many-celled  order  of  living  beings. 
And  in  all  cases,  though  death  or  destruction  of  the 
cells  is  synonymous  with  the  death  or  destruction 
of  the  living  organism,  the  latter  in  most  cases 
already  has  recreated  itself  by  reproduction. 

We  will  not  go  into  the  very  complicated  details 
of  the  actual  process  of  the  growth  and  division  of 
the  protoplasmic  cells.  It  is  enough  to  say  that  in 
the  case  of  living  creatures  provided  with  more 
complicated  organisms,  such  as  the  higher  plants, 
animals  and  man,  the  little  cell  units  divide  and 
grow  as  they  do  in  the  case  of  the  lower  organisms. 
The  fact  is  one  which  shows  the  intimate  inner 
relationship  of  all  living  beings, 

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THE   LADDER   OF   ORGANIC   ASCENT 

As  we  mount  the  ascending  ladder  of  plant  and 
animal  life  the  unit-cell  of  the  lower  organisms  is 
replaced  by  a  great  number  of  individual  cells, 
which  have  grown  together  to  form  a  completed 
whole.  In  this  complete  whole  the  cells,  in  accord- 
ance with  the  specific  purpose  for  which  they  are 
intended,  all  have  a  different  form  and  a  different 
chemical  composition.  Thus  it  is  that  in  the  case 
of  the  plants  leaves,  flowers,  buds,  bark,  branches 
and  stems  are  formed,  and  in  that  of  animals  skin, 
intestines,  glands,  blood,  muscles,  nerves,  brain  and 
the  organs  of  sense.  In  spite  of  the  complicated 
nature  of  numerous  organisms  we  find  that  many  of 
them  still  possess  the  power  of  reproducing  them- 
selves by  division  or  a  process  of  "budding/'  In  the 
case  of  certain  plants  and  animals,  cell-groups  grow 
together  into  a  so-called  "bud,"  which  later  de- 
taches itself  from  the  parent  body  and  forms  a  new 
individual  living  organism,  as  in  the  case  of  the 
polyps  or  the  tubers  in  plant  life. 

A  tree,  for  instance,  may  be  grown  from  a  graft 
which  has  been  cut  off  and  planted  in  the  ground. 
And  ants  and  bees  which  have  not  been  fecundated 
are  quite  capable  of  laying  eggs  out  of  which  de- 
velop perfect,  well-formed  descendants.  This  last 
process  is  called  parthenogenesis.  It  is  a  process, 
however,  which  if  carried  on  through  several  gener- 
ations, ends  in  deterioration  and  degeneracy.  In  the 
case  of  the  higher  animals,  vertebrates  and  man, 
such  reproduction  is  an  impossibility. 

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These  higher  types  of  animal  life  have  been  pro- 
vided by  nature  with  special  organs  of  reproduc- 
tion and  reproductive  glands  whose  secretions, 
when  they  are  projected  from  the  body  under  cer- 
tain conditions,  reproduce  themselves,  and  increase 
and  develop  in  such  wise  that  the  living  organism 
from  which  they  proceed  is  reproduced  in  practi- 
cally its  identical  form.  Thus  it  perpetuates  the 
original  type.  Philosophically  it  may  be  said  that 
these  cells  directly  continue  the  life  of  the  parents, 
so  that  death  in  reality  only  destroys  a  part  of  the 
individual.  Every  individual  lives  again  in  his 
offspring. 

THE   TRUE    MISSION    OF   SEX 

This  rebirth  of  the  individual  in  his  descendants 
represents  the  true  mission  of  sex  where  the  human 
being  is  concerned.  And  reproduction,  the  per- 
petuation of  the  species,  underlies  all  rightful  and 
normal  sex  functions  and  activities.  The  actual 
physical  process  of  reproduction,  the  details  which 
initiate  reproduction  in  the  case  of  the  human  being, 
it  seems  unnecessary  here  to  describe.  In  the  animal 
world,  into  which  the  moral  equation  does  not 
really  enter,  the  facts  of  conjugation  represent  a 
simple  and  natural  working-out  of  functional  bodily 
laws,  usually  with  a  seasonal  determination.  But 
where  man  is  concerned  these  facts  are  so  largely 
made  to  serve  the  purposes  of  pruriency,  so  ex- 
ploited to  inflame  the  imagination  in  an  undesirable 
and  directly  harmful  way  that  they  can  be  ap- 
proached only  with  the  utmost  caution. 

The  intimate  fact  knowledge  necessary  in  this 

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connection  is  of  a  peculiarly  personal  and  sacred 
nature,  and  represents  information  which  is  better 
communicated  by  the  spoken  than  by  the  printed 
word.  The  wise  father  and  mother  are  those  natu- 
rally indicated  to  convey  this  information  to  their 
sons  and  daughters  by  word  of  mouth.  By  analogy, 
by  fuller  development  and  description  of  the  repro- 
ductive processes  of  plant  and  animal  life  on  which 
we  have  touched,  the  matter  of  human  procreation 
may  be  approached.  Parents  should  stress  the  point, 
when  trying  to  present  this  subject  to  the  youthful 
mind,  that  man's  special  functions  are  only  a  detail 
— albeit  a  most  important  one  —  in  nature's  vast 
plan  for  the  propagation  of  life  on  earth.  This  will 
have  the  advantage  of  correcting  a  trend  on  the 
part  of  the  imaginative  boy  or  girl  to  lay  too  much 
stress  on  the  part  humanity  plays  in  this  great  gen- 
eral reproductive  scheme.  It  will  lay  weight  on  the 
fact  that  the  functional  workings  of  reproduction 
are  not,  primarily,  a  source  of  pleasure,  but  that — 
when  safeguarded  by  the  institution  of  matrimony, 
on  which  civilized  social  life  is  based— they  stand 
for  the  observance  of  solemn  duties  and  obligations, 
duties  to  church  and  state,  and  obligations  to  pos- 
terity* Hence,  parents,  in  talking  to  their  children 
about  these  matters  should  do  so  in  a  sober  and  in- 
structive fashion.  The  attention  of  a  mother,  per- 
haps, need  not  be  called  to  this.  But  fathers  may 
be  inclined,  in  many  cases,  to  inform  their  sons 
without  insisting  that  the  information  they  give 
them  is,  in  the  final  analysis,  intended  to  be  applied 
to  lofty  constructive  purposes.    They  may,  in  their 

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desire  to  speak  practically,  forget  the  moral  values 
which  should  underlie  this  intimate  information. 
Never  should  the  spirit  of  levity  intrude  itself  in 
these  intimate  personal  sex  colloquies.  Restraint 
and  decency  should  always  mark  them. 

In  making  clear  to  the  mind  of  youth  the  fact 
data  which  initiates  and  governs  reproduction  in 
animal  and  in  human  life,  the  ideal  to  be  cultivated 
is  continence,  the  refraining  from  all  experimenta- 
tion undertaken  in  a  spirit  of  curiosity,  until  such 
time  as  a  well-placed  affection,  sanctioned  by  the 
divine  blessing,  will  justify  a  sane  and  normal  ex- 
ploitation of  physical  needs  and  urges  in  the  matri- 
monial state,  To  this  end  hard  bodily  and  mental- 
work  should  be  encouraged  in  the  youth  of  both 
sexes.  "Satan  finds  work  for  idle  hands  to  do,"  has 
special  application  in  this  connection,  and  a  chaste 
and  continent  youth  is  usually  the  forerunner  of  a 
happy  and  contented  marriage.  And  incidentally, 
a  happy  marriage  is  the  best  guarantee  that  repro- 
duction, the  carrying  on  of  the  species,  will  be 
morally  and  physically  a  success.  Here,  too,  the 
fact  should  be  strongly  stressed  that  prostitution 
cannot  be  justified  on  any  moral  grounds.  It  repre- 
sents a  deliberate  ignoring  of  the  rightful  function 
of  sex,  and  the  perversion  of  the  sane  and  natural 
laws  of  reproduction,  It  is  in  marriage,  in  the 
sane  and  normal  activities  of  that  unit  of  our  whole 
social  system— -the  family — that  reproduction  de- 
velops nature's  basic  principle  of  perpetuation  in 
the  highest  and  worthiest  manner,  in  obedience  to 
laws  humane  and  divine. 

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CHAPTER   II 

THE   TRANSITION   FROM    CELL  TO 
HUMAN   BEING 

IN  the  functional  processes  alluded  to  in  the  pre- 
ceding chapter,  the  male  germ-cell  and  the  female 
germ-cell  unite  in  a  practically  equal  division  of 
substance.  We  say  "practically"  because  the  ma- 
ternal and  the  paternal  influences  are  not  equally 
divided  in  the  offspring.  One  or  the  other  usually 
predominates.  But,  as  a  general  rule,  it  may  be 
said  that  in  the  development  of  the  embryonal  life 
the  process  of  cell  division  proceeds  in  such  a  way 
that  every  germ  of  the  child's  future  organism  rep- 
resents approximately  one-half  maternal  and  one- 
half  paternal  substance  and  energy. 

In  this  process  lies  the  true  secret  of  heredity. 
The  inherited  energies  retain  their  their  full  measure 
of  power,  and  all  their  original  quality  in  the 
growing  and  dividing  chromosomes  (the  chromo- 
some is  one  of  the  segments  into  which  the 
chromoplasmic  filaments  of  a  cell-nucleus  break 
up  just  before  indirect  division).  On  the  other 
hand,  the  egg-substance  of  the  female  germ-cell, 
which  is  assimilated  by  the  chromosomes,  and  which 
is  turned  into  their  substance  by  the  process  of 
organic  chemistry,  loses  its  specific  plastic  vital 
energy  completely.    It  is  in  the  same  way  that  food 

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eaten  by  the  adult  has  absolutely  no  effect  on  his 
qualitative  organic  structure.  We  may  eat  ever 
so  many  beef-steaks  without  acquiring  any  of  the 
characteristics  of  an  ox.  And  the  germ-cell  may  de- 
vour any  amount  of  egg-protoplasma  without  los- 
ing its  original  paternal  energy.  As  a  rule  a  child 
inherits  as  many  qualities  from  its  mother  as  from 
its  father. 

DETERMINATION    OF    SEX 

Sex  is  determined  after  conception  has  taken 
place.  At  an  early  stage  of  the  embryo  certain 
cells  are  set  apart.  These,  later,  form  the  sex 
glands.  Modern  research  claims  to  have  discovered 
the  secret  of  absolutely  determining  sex  in  the 
human  embryo,  but  even  if  these  claims  are  valid 
they  have  not  as  yet  met  with  any  general  applica- 
tion. 

EARLY    DEVELOPMENT 

Some  twelve  days  after  conception,  the  female 
ovule  or  egg,  which  has  been  impregnated  by  the 
male  spermatazoon,  escapes  from  the  ovary  where 
it  was  impregnated,  and  entering  a  tube  (Fallopian) 
gradually  descends  by  means  of  it  into  the  cavity 
of  the  womb  or  uterus.  Here  the  little  germ  begins 
to  mature  in  order  to  develop  into  an  exact  counter- 
part of  its  parents.  In  the  human  being  the  womb 
has  only  a  single  cavity,  and  usually  develops  but 
a  single  embryo. 

TWINS 

Sometimes  two  ovules  are  matured  at  the  same 
time.  If  fecundated,  two  embryos  instead  of  one 
will  develop,  producing  twins.    Triplets  and  quad- 

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ruplets,  the  results  of  the  maturing  of  three  or  four 
ovules  at  the  same  time,  occur  more  rarely.  As 
many  as  five  children  have  been  born  alive  at  a 
single  birth,  but  have  seldom  lived  for  more  than 
a  few  minutes. 

GESTATION 

The  development  of  the  ovule  in  the  womb  is 
known  as  gestation  or  pregnancy.  The  process  is  one 
of  continued  cell  division  and  growth,  and  while  it 
goes  on  the  ovule  sticks  to  the  inner  wall  of  the 
womb.  There  it  is  soon  enveloped  by  a  mucous 
membrane,  which  grows  around  it  and  incloses  it. 

THE  EMBRYO 

The  Primitive  Trace,  a  delicate  straight  line  ap- 
pearing on  the  surface  of  the  growing  layer  of  cells 
is  the  base  of  the  embryonic  spinal  column.  Around 
this  the  whole  embryo  develops  in  an  intricate 
process  of  cell  division  and  duplication.  One  end 
of  the  Primitive  Trace  becomes  the  head,  the  other 
the  tail,  for  every  human  being  has  a  tail  at  this 
stage  of  his  existence.  The  neck  is  marked  by  a 
slight  depression;  the  body  by  a  swollen  center. 
Soon  little  buds  or  "pads"  appear  in  the  proper 
positions.  These  represent  arms  and  legs,  whose 
ends,  finally,  split  up  into  fingers  and  toes.  The 
embryonic  human  being  has  been  steadily  increas- 
ing in  size,  meanwhile.  By  the  fifth  week  the  heart 
and  lungs  are  present  in  a  rudimentary  form,  and 
ears  and  face  are  distinctly  outlined.  During  the 
seventh  week  the  kidneys  are  formed,  and  a  little 
later  the  genital  organs.     At  two  months,  though 

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sex  is  not  determined  as  yet,  eyes  and  nose  are 
visible,  the  mouth  is  gaping,  and  the  skin  can  be 
distinguished.  At  ten  weeks  the  sexual  organs 
form  more  definitely,  and  in  the  third  month  sex 
can  be  definitely  determined, 

THE    FOETUS 

At  the  end  of  its  fourth  month  the  embryo— 
now  four  or  five  inches  long  and  weighing  about  an 
ounce — is  promoted.  It  receives  the  name  of  foetus. 
Hairs  appear  on  the  scalp,  the  eyes  are  provided 
with  lids,  the  tongue  appears  far  back  in  the  mouth. 
The  movements  of  the  foetus  are  plainly  felt  by 
the  mother.  If  born  at  this  time  it  lives  but  a  few 
minutes.  It  continues  to  gain  rapidly  in  weight.  By 
the  sixth  month  the  nails  are  solid,  the  liver  large 
and  red,  and  there  is  fluid  in  the  gall  bladder.  The 
seventh  month  finds  the  foetus  from  twelve  and  a 
half  to  fourteen  inches  long,  and  weighing  about 
fifty-five  ounces.  It  is  now  well  proportioned,  the 
bones  of  the  cranium,  formerly  flat,  are  arched.  All 
its  parts  are  well  defined,  and  it  can  live  if  born. 
By  the  end  of  the  eighth  month  the  foetus  has 
thickened  out.  Its  skin  is  red  and  covered  by  a  deli- 
cate down;  the  lower  jaw  has  grown  to  the  same 
length  as  the  upper  one.  The  convolutions  of  the 
brain  structure  also  appear  during  this  month. 

PLACENTA    AND    UMBILICAL    CORD 

During  gestation  the  unborn  infant  has  been  sup- 
plied with  air  and  nourishment  by  the  mother.  An 
organ   called   the   Placenta,   a   spongy   growth   of 

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blood  vessels,  develops  on  the  inner  point  of  the 
womb.  To  this  organ  the  growing  foetus  is  moored 
by  a  species  of  cable,  the  Umbilical  Cord.  This 
cord,  also  made  up  mainly  of  blood  vessels,  carries 
the  blood  of  the  foetus  to  and  from  the  Placenta, 
absorbing  it  through  the  thin  walls  which  separate  it 
from  the  mother's  blood.  Only  through  her  blood 
can  the  mother  influence  the  child,  since  the  Um- 
bilical Cord  contains  no  nerves.  The  Umbilical 
Cord,  attached  to  the  body  of  the  child  at  the  navel, 
is  cut  at  birth,  and  with  the  Placenta  is  expelled 
from  the  womb  soon  after  the  child  has  been  born. 
Together  with  the  Placenta  it  forms  a  shapeless 
mass,  familiarly  known  as  the  "afterbirth,"  and 
when  it  is  retained  instead  of  being  expelled  is  apt 
to  cause  serious  trouble. 

CHILDBIRTH   OR  PARTURITION 

At  nine  month's  time  the  foetus  is  violently  thrust 
from  that  laboratory  of  nature  in  which  it  has 
formed.  It  is  born,  and  comes  into  the  world  as  a 
child.  Considering  the  ordinary  size  of  the  gen- 
erative passages,  the  expelling  of  the  foetus  from 
the  womb  would  seem  impossible.  But  Nature,  dur- 
ing those  months  in  which  she  enlarged  the  womb 
to  hold  its  gradually  increasing  contents,  has  also  in- 
creased the  generative  passages  in  size.  She  has 
made  them  soft  and  distensible,  so  that  an  apparent 
physical  impossibility  could  take  place,  though  it  is 
often  accompanied  by  intense  suffering.  Modern 
medical  science  has  made  childbirth  easier,  but  the 
act  of  childbirth  is  usually  accompanied  by  more 

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or  less  suffering.  Excessive  pain,  however,  is  often 
the  result  of  causes  which  proper  treatment  can  re- 
move before  and  at  the  time  of  confinement. 

TWILIGHT    SLEEP 

The  so-called  "Twilight  Sleep,"  a  modern  de- 
velopment, by  wrhich  the  pangs  of  childbirth  are 
obviated  by  the  administration  of  drugs  or  by  hyp- 
notic suggestion,  has  its  opponents  and  defenders. 
The  advantage  of  a  painless  childbirth,  upon  which 
the  mother  can  look  back  as  on  a  dream,  is  evident. 
The  "Twilight  Sleep"  process  has  been  used  with 
the  happiest  results  both  for  parent  and  child. 
Opponents  of  this  system  declare  that  the  use  of 
powerful  drugs  may  injure  the  child.  A  method 
commended  is  the  administration  of  a  mixture  of 
laughing  gas  and  oxygen,  which  relieves  the  mother 
and  does  not  affect  the  child. 

THE    NEW-BORN    INFANT 

The  average  weight  of  the  new-born  child  is 
about  seven  and  a  half  pounds.  It  is  insensitive 
to  pain  for  the  first  few  days,  and  seems  deaf  (since 
its  middle  ears  are  filled  with  a  thick  mucus)  for 
the  first  two  weeks.  During  the  first  few  days,  too, 
it  does  not  seem  able  to  see.  The  first  month  of 
its  existence  is  purely  automatic.  Evidences  of 
dawning  intelligence  appear  in  the  second  month 
and  at  four  months  it  will  recognize  mother  or 
nurse.  Muscularly  it  is  poorly  developed.  Not 
until  two  months  old  is  it  able  to  hold  up  its  head, 
and  not  until  three  months  does  voluntary  muscular 

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movement  put  in  an  appearance.  The  newborn's 
first  self-conscious  act  is  to  draw  breath.  Deprived 
of  its  usual  means  of  supply  it  must  breathe  or 
suffocate.    Its  next  is  to  suck  milk,  lest  it  starve. 

HEREDITY 

We  often  find  children  who  offer  a  striking  re- 
semblance to  a  paternal  grandfather,  a  maternal 
aunt  or  a  maternal  great-grandmother.  This  is 
known  as  avatism.  There  are  many  curious  varia- 
tions with  regard  to  the  inheritance  of  ancestral 
traits.  Some  children  show  a  remarkable  resem- 
blance to  their  fathers  in  childhood,  others  to  their 
mothers.  And  many  qualities  of  certain  individual 
ancestors  appear  quite  suddenly  late  in  life.  Every- 
thing may  be  inherited,  from  the  most  delicate 
shadings  of  the  disposition,  the  intelligence  and  the 
will  powrer,  to  the  least  details  of  hair,  nails  and 
bone  structure,  etc.  And  the  combination  of  the 
qualities  of  one's  ancestors  in  heredity  is  so  mani- 
fold and  so  unequal  that  it  is  extremely  difficult  to 
arrive  at  fixed  conclusions  regarding  it.  Hereditary 
traits  and  tendencies  are  developed  out  of  the 
energies  of  the  original  conjugated  germ-cells 
throughout  life,  up  to  the  very  day  of  death.  Even 
aged  men  often  show  peculiarities  in  the  evening 
of  their  life  which  may  be  clearly  recognized  as 
inherited,  and  duplicating  others  shown  by  their 
forbears  at  the  same  period  of  life. 

As  has  already  been  mentioned  every  individual 
inherits,  generally  speaking,  as  much  from  his  pa- 
ternal as  from  his  maternal  progenitors.     This  in 

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spite  of  the  fact  that  the  tiny  paternal  germ-cell  is 
the  only  medium  of  transmission  of  the  paternal 
qualities,  while  the  mother  furnishes  the  much 
larger  egg-cell,  and  feeds  him  throughout  the  em- 
bryonic period. 

THE   ENGRAM 

An  interesting  theory  maintains  that  the  ex- 
ternal inpressions  made  upon  an  organism  which 
reacts  to  them  and  receives  them,  might  be  called 
engrams  or  "inscriptions."  Thus  the  impression  of 
some  object  we  have  seen  or  touched  (let  us  say 
we  have  seen  a  lion)  may  remain  engraved  on  our 
mind  as  an  impression.  Hence  every  memory  pic- 
ture is  one  of  engrams,  whether  the  impression  is 
a  conscious  one  or  an  unconscious  one.  According 
to  this  same  theory  the  reawakening  of  an  older 
impression  is  an  ecphory.  Some  new  stimulation 
may  thus  ecphorate  an  old  engram.  Now  the  entire 
embryonal  development  of  the  human  child  is  in 
reality  no  more  than  a  continuous  process  of  ecpho- 
ration  of  old  engrams,  one  after  another.  And  the 
entire  complex  of  our  living  human  organism  is 
made  up  entirely  of  these  energy-complexes  engraved 
on  our  consciousness  or  subconsciousness.  The  sum 
total  of  all  these  engrams,  in  a  living  human  being, 
according  to  the  theory  advanced,  is  given  the  name 
of  mnema.  That  which  the  child  receives  in  the 
way  of  energies  contained  in  the  germ-cells  from 
its  ancestors  is  his  hereditary  mnema.  And  that 
which  he  acquires  in  the  course  of  his  own  individ- 
ual life  is  his  acquired  or  individual  mnema. 

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CHAPTER   III 

SEX   IN    MALE    CHILDHOOD 

(FROM    14  TO   l6) 

DURING  the  first  years  of  child  life  all  those 
laws  of  practical  hygiene  which  make  for  good 
health  should  be  carefully  observed.  Every  organ 
of  the  body  should  be  carefully  protected,  even  at 
this  early  age.  The  genital  organs,  especially, 
should  not  be  rubbed  or  handled  under  any  pretext, 
beyond  what  is  absolutely  necessary  for  cleanli- 
ness. The  organs  of  generation,  which  we  are  apt 
to  treat  as  nonexistent  in  children,  just  because  they 
are  children,  claim  just  as  much  watchful  care  as 
any  others. 

SEX  PRECAUTIONS  IN  INFANCY 

Even  in  infancy,  the  diaper  should  fit  easily  about 
the  organs  which  it  covers,  so  as  not  to  give  rise 
to  undue  friction  or  heating  of  the  parts.  And  for 
the  same  reason  it  should  always  be  changed  im- 
mediately after  urination  or  a  movement  of  the 
bowels.  No  material  which  prevents  the  escape  of 
perspiration,  urine  or  fecal  matter  should  be  em- 
ployed for  a  diaper.  The  use  of  a  chair-commode 
as  early  as  the  end  of  the  first  year  is  highly  to  be 
commended,  as  being  more  comfortable  for  the 
sex  organs  and  healthier  for  the  child.     It  favors, 

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in  particular,  a  more  perfect  development  of  limbs 
and  hip  joints. 

EARLY  SEX   IMPRESSIONS 

Sex  impressions  and  reactions  are  apt  to  develop 
at  an  early  age,  especially  in  the  case  of  boys.  If 
the  child's  physical  health  is  normal,  however,  they 
should  not  affect  his  mind  or  body.  The  growing 
boy  should  be  encouraged  to  take  his  sex  questions 
and  sex  problems  to  his  parents  (in  his  case  pref- 
erably the  father)  for  explanation.  Thus  they  may 
be  made  clear  to  him  naturally  and  logically.  He 
should  not  be  told  what  he  soon  discovers  is  not 
true:  that  babies  are  "dug  up  with  a  silver  spade," 
or  make  their  appearances  in  the  family  thanks  to 
the  kind  offices  of  storks  or  angels.  Instead,  by 
analogy  with  the  reproductive  processes  of  all 
nature,  the  true  facts  of  sex  may  be  explained  to 
him  in  a  soothing  and  normal  way. 

EVIL   COMMUNICATIONS 

Too  often,  the  growing  boy  receives  his  first  les- 
sons regarding  sex  from  ignorant  and  vicious  as- 
sociates. Curiosity  is  one  of  the  greatest  natural 
factors  in  the  child's  proper  development,  if  rightly 
directed.  When  wrongly  led,  however,  it  may  have 
the  worst  consequences.  Even  before  puberty  oc- 
curs, a  boy's  attention  may  be  quite  naturally  drawn 
to  his  own  sex  organs. 

NATURAL  CAUSES  OF  INFANT  SEXUAL  PRECOCITY 

Sexual  precocity  in  boys  may  be  natural  or  it  may 
be  artificially  called  forth.     Among  natural  causes 

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which  develop  sex  precocity  is  promiscuous  playing 
with  other  boys  and  girls  for  hours  without  super- 
vision. It  may  also  be  produced  by  playful  repose 
on  the  stomach,  sliding  down  banisters,  going  too 
long  without  urinating,  by  constipation  or  straining 
at  stool,  irritant  cutaneous  affections,  and  rectal 
worms.  Sliding  down  banisters,  for  instance,  pro- 
duces a  titillation.  The  act  may  be  repeated  until 
inveterate  masturbation  results,  even  at  an  early  age- 
Needless  laving,  handling  and  rubbing  of  the  private 
parts  is  another  natural  incitement  to  sexual 
precocity. 

FRIAPISM 

Priapism  is  a  disease  which  boys  often  develop. 
It  may  be  either  a  result  or  a  cause  of  sexual  pre- 
cocity, and  may  come  from  undue  handling  of  the 
genital  parts  or  from  a  morbid  state  of  health.  It 
takes  the  form  of  paroxysms,  more  or  less  fre- 
quent, and  of  violent  and  often  painful  erection, 
calling  for  a  physician's  attention.  If  the  result 
of  a  functional  disorder,  and  not  arrested,  it  is  in 
danger  of  giving  rise  to  masturbation.  This  morbid 
condition  sometimes  seriously  impairs  the  health. 

MASTURBATION 

Masturbation?  the  habit  of  self-abuse,  often 
formed  before  puberty,  is  an  artificial  development 
of  sexual  precocity.  Most  boys,  from  the  age  of 
nine  to  fourteen,  interest  themselves  in  sex  ques- 
tions and  matters,  but  these  are  usually  presented  to 
them  in  a  lewd  and  improper  manner,  by  improperly 
informed  companions.  Dwelling  upon  these  thoughts 

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the  boy  is  led  to  play  with  his  sex  organs  in  secret 
and  masturbation  results.  A  secret  vice  of  the  most 
dangerous  kind,  masturbation  or  self -pollution  is 
often  taught  by  older  boys  and  takes  place,  to  quote 
an  authority  "in  many  of  our  colleges,  boarding, 
public  and  private  schools,"  and  is  also  indulged 
in  by  companions  beneath  the  home  roof.  If  it 
becomes  habitual,  generally  impaired  health,  and 
often  epilepsy,  and  total  moral  and  physical  degra- 
dation results.  Stains  on  the  nightshirt  or  sheet 
occurring  before  puberty  are  absolute  evidence  of 
the  vice  in  boys. 

WHAT  FATHERS  SHOULD  DO  FOR  THEIR  BOYS 

Make  sex  facts  clear  to  your  boy  as  interesting, 
matter-of-fact  developments  of  general  natural 
laws.  Ungratified  or  improperly  gratified  curiosity 
is  what  leads  to  a  young  boy's  overemphasizing  the 
facts  of  sex  as  they  apply  to  him.  Make  him  your 
confidant.  Teach  him  to  think  cleanly  and  to  act 
cleanly,  neither  to  ignore  nor  to  exalt  the  sexual. 
Especially,  when  he  himself  is  directly  disturbed 
sexually,  either  in  a  mental  or  physical  way,  let 
him  feel  that  he  can  apply  to  you  naturally  for 
relief  and  explanation.  If  this  be  done,  your  boy's 
sex  development  before  puberty  will  be  natural  and 
normal,  and  when  the  more  serious  and  difficult 
problems  of  adolescence  present  themselves,  he 
will  be  prepared  to  handle  them  on  the  basis  of 
right  thinking  and  right  living.  Natural  and  healthy 
sport  in  the  open  air,  and  the  avoidance  of  foul 
language  and  indecency  should  be  stressed.    The 

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use  of  alcohol,  coffee  and  tea  by  children  tends  to 
weaken  their  sexual  organs.  Every  boy  should 
know  that  chastity  means  continence.  He  should 
know  that  lascivious  thoughts  lead  to  lascivious 
actions,  and  that  these  are  a  drain  on  his  system 
which  may  spoil  his  life  in  later  years. 

In  the  education  of  his  children  the  average  man 
is  only  too  apt  to  repeat  the  same  mistake  of  un- 
consciously crediting  the  child  with  the  possession 
of  his  own  feelings  and  his  own  outlook,  that  is  the 
feelings  and  outlook  of  the  adult.  In  general, 
things  which  may  make  an  impression  in  a  sex 
way  on  the  adult  are  a  matter  of  indifference  to 
the  sexually  unripe  boy.  Hence  it  is  quite  possible 
for  a  father  to  discuss  sex  matters  with  his  young 
son  and  inform  him  constructively,  without  in  any 
undue  way  rousing  his  sex  curiosity  or  awakening 
desire.  Such  talks,  of  course,  should  be  in  ac- 
cordance with  the  principles  already  laid  down  in 
the  section  on  "Reproduction." 

If  a  boy  is  accustomed  and  taught  to  regard  sex 
conditions  and  matters  in  a  proper  and  innocent 
manner,  as  something  perfectly  natural,  improper 
curiosity  and  eroticism  are  far  less  likely  to  be 
aroused  than  when  this  is  not  the  case.  For  the 
whole  subject  will  have  lost  the  dangerous  attrac- 
tion of  novelty.  On  the  other  hand,  we  find  boys 
who  have  been  brought  up  with  great  prudery  and 
in  complete  ignorance  of  sex  matters  (save  that 
which  may  come  to  them  from  impure  sources) 
greatly  excited  and  ashamed  by  the  first  appearance 
of    the    indications    of    puberty.      Secrecy    is   the 

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enemy  of  a  clean,  normal  conception  on  the  part 
of  the  child  as  to  the  right  place  sex  and  the  sex 
function  play  in  life  and  in  the  world.  It  stands 
to  reason,  of  course,  that  every  least  detail  of  the 
sex  question  cannot  be  intelligently  made  clear  to  a 
little  child.  But  his  questions  should  all  be  answered, 
honestly,  and  with  due  regard  for  his  age  and  his 
capacity  to  understand  what  is  explained  to  him. 

One  very  great  advantage  of  an  early  paternal 
explanation  of  sex  matters  to  the  boy  is  its  beneficial 
effect  on  the  mind  and  the  nerves.  Many  boys  brood 
or  grow  melancholy  when  confronted  with  sex  rid- 
dles and  problems  for  which  they  are  unable  to  find 
a  solution;  and  as  the  result  of  totally  erroneous 
ideas  they  may  have  formed  with  regard  to  sex 
matters.  At  the  same  time  too  much  attention  should 
not  be  paid  the  discussion  of  sex  questions  between 
father  and  son.  A  father  should,  so  far  as  possible, 
endeavor  to  develop  other  interests  and  preoccupa- 
tions in  his  boy,  and  turn  his  mind  as  much  as  may 
be  away  from  matters  sexual,  until  the  age  when 
the  youth  is  ripe  for  marriage  is  reached. 


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CHAPTER   IV 

SEX  IN  FEMALE  CHILDHOOD 

(FROM    12  TO   14) 

WHAT  has  been  said  in  general  about  practical 
observance  of  the  laws  of  sex  hygiene  in  the 
preceding  chapter  for  boys,  applies  to  girls  as  well. 
If  anything  the  sex  precautions  taken  in  infancy 
should  be  even  more  closely  followed,  as  girls  are 
by  nature  less  robust  than  boys.  If  children  could 
be  raised  in  entire  accordance  with  natural  laws, 
the  sexual  instinct  of  girls  as  well  as  boys  would 
probably  remain  dormant  during  the  period  stretch- 
ing from  infancy  to  puberty.  As  in  the  case  of  the 
boy,  so  in  that  of  the  girl,  any  manifestation  of 
sexual  precocity  should  be  investigated,  to  see 
whether  it  be  due  to  natural  or  artificial  causes.  In 
either  case  the  proper  remedies  should  be  applied. 

SEX  PRECOCITY  IN  GIRLS 

There  are  cases  of  extraordinary  sex  precocity 
in  girls.  One  case  reported  in  the  United  States 
was  that  of  a  female  child  who  at  birth  possessed 
all  the  characteristics  usually  developed  at  puberty. 
In  this  case  the  natural  periodical  changes  began  at 
birth !  Fortunately,  this  is  a  case  more  or  less  unique, 
In  little  girls  and  boys  undue  sexual  handling  or 

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titillating  of  their  genital  organs  tends  to  quiet 
them,  so  nurses  (let  us  hope  in  ignorance  of  the 
consequences!)  often  resort  to  it.  Sending  children 
to  bed  very  early,  to  "get  rid  of  them,"  or  confining 
them  in  a  room  by  themselves,  tends  to  encourage 
the  development  of  vicious  habits.  A  single  bed, 
both  in  the  school  and  in  the  home,  is  indispensable 
to  purity  of  morals  and  personal  cleanliness.  It 
tends  to  restrain  too  early  development  of  the 
sexual  instinct  both  in  small  girls  and  small  boys. 

SEXUAL  SELF- ABUSE   IN   GIRLS 

Small  girls,  like  small  boys,  display  an  intelligent 
curiosity  as  regards  the  phenomena  of  sex  at  an 
early  age.  And  what  has  already  been  said  regard- 
ing its  improper  gratification  in  the  preceding 
chapter,  so  far  as  boys  are  concerned,  applies  with 
equal  force  to  them.  In  their  case,  however,  the 
mother  is  a  girl's  natural  confidant  and  friend. 
Self-abuse  in  one  or  another  form  is  as  common 
in  the  case  of  the  girl  as  in  that  of  the  boy.  As  a 
rule,  girls  who  live  an  outdoor  life,  and  work  with 
their  muscles  more  than  their  mind,  do  not  develop 
undue  precocious  sexual  curiosities  or  desires.  At 
least  they  do  not  do  so  to  the  same  extent  as  those 
more  nervously  and  susceptibly  constituted.  The 
less  delicate  and  sensitive  children  of  the  country 
tend  less  to  these  habits  than  their  more  sensitively 
organized  city  brothers  and  sisters.  Girls  who  have 
formed  vicious  habits  are  apt  to  indulge  in  the  prac- 
tice of  self -abuse  at  night  when  going  to  bed.  If 
there  is  cause  for  suspicion,  the  bedclothes  should 

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be  quickly  and  suddenly  thrown  off  under  some 
pretense.  Self-abuse  usually  has  a  marked  effect  on 
the  genital  organs  of  girls.  The  inner  organs  be- 
come unnaturally  enlarged  and  distended,  and 
leucorrhea,  catarrh  of  the  vagina,  attended  by  a 
discharge  of  greenish-white  mucus,  often  develops. 

RESULTS  OF  SELF-ABUSE  IN  GIRLS 

Local  diseases,  due  to  this  cause,  result  in  girls 
as  well  as  boys.  Temporary  congestions  become 
permanent,  and  develop  into  permanent  irritations 
and  disorders.  Leucorrhea  has  already  been  men- 
tioned. Contact  with  the  acrid,  irritating  internal 
secretions  also  causes  soreness  of  the  fingers  at 
the  root  of  the  nails,  and  warts.  Congestion  and 
other  diseases  are  other  ultimate  results  of  the  habit ; 
and  these  congestions  to  which  it  gives  rise  unduly 
hasten  the  advent  of  puberty.  Any  decided  enlarge- 
ment of  the  labia  and  clitoris  in  a  young  girl  may  be 
taken  as  a  positive  evidence  of  the  existence  of  the 
habit  of  self-abuse.  Sterility,  and  atrophy  of  the 
breasts — their  deficient  development — when  the  vice 
is  begun  before  puberty,  is  another  result. 

PRURITIS   AND   FEMININE   NOCTURNAL    EMISSIONS 

Pruritis  (itching  genitals),  though  not  necessarily 
caused  by  self-abuse,  may  be  one  of  its  consequen- 
ces. Continued  congestion  causes  the  genital  parts 
to  itch  terribly.  This  itching  increases  until  the 
desire  to  manipulate  the  genitals  becomes  irresist- 
ible. It  will  then  be  indulged  in  even  in  the  pres- 
ence of  strangers,  though  the  girl  in  question  at 

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other  times  may  be  exceptionally  modest.  Girls 
addicted  to  the  vice  also  suffer  from  nocturnal 
emissions.  The  general  effect  of  self-abuse  is  much 
the  same  in  the  case  of  a  girl  as  in  that  of  a  boy, 
for  leucorrhea  is  injurious  in  somewhat  the  same 
fashion  as  seminal  loss.  In  the  case  of  girls  the 
greatest  injury,  however,  is  due  to  the  nervous  ex- 
haustion which  succeeds  the  unnatural  excitement. 

WHAT   MOTHERS  SHOULD  DO  FOR  THEIR  GIRLS 

A  healthy  girl  should  be  happy  and  comfortable 
in  all  respects.  She  will  not  be  so,  especially  with 
regard  to  her  sex  problems,  unless  she  can  appeal 
to  her  mother  as  a  friend  and  confidant.  While 
keeping  your  girl's  mind  pure  and  healthy  by  pre- 
cept and  example,  do  not  forget  that  the  best  way 
to  protect  her  against  evil  influences  and  communi- 
cations is  to  tell  her  the  exact  truth  about  sex  facts, 
as  they  apply  to  her,  just  as  the  father  should  his 
boy.  Keep  your  girl  fully  occupied  and  do  not  leave 
her  sex  education  to  the  evil  winds  of  chance. 

Let  sex  knowledge  take  its  place  as  a  proper, 
necessary  part  of  her  general  education.  If  your 
daughter  feels  she  can  at  all  times  talk  freely  to 
you  all  will  be  well.  Gratify  her  natural  sex  curi- 
osity in  a  natural  way.  See  that  immediate  medical 
attention  is  given  inflammations,  excoriations,  itch- 
ings  and  swellings  of  her  genital  organs.  Such  con- 
ditions will  lead  her  to  rub  and  scratch  these  parts 
— never  to  be  touched — for  relief.  If,  as  a  result  of 
the  sensations  experienced,  masturbation  results, 
yours  is  the  sin. 

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CHAPTER   V 

SEX  IN  THE  ADOLESCENT  MALE 
(from  puberty  to  maturity) 

ADOLESCENCE  is  the  period  when  the  boy  is 
^  lost  in  the  man.  It  is  the  time  of  life  embraced 
between  the  ages  of  fourteen  or  sixteen  and  the  age 
of  twenty-five.  Every  boy,  if  properly  trained, 
should  reach  this  period  in  a  state  of  good  general 
health  and  spirits.  Hitherto  he  has  been  led  and 
guided.  Now  he  must  develop  mental  strength  and 
will  power  himself  to  choose  the  good  and  refuse 
the  evil  in  the  sexual  problems  confronting  him. 

puberty 

According  to  climate  puberty,  the  age  when  the 
human  male  becomes  sexually  perfect,  varies  from 
ten  to  fifteen  years.  In  the  LTnited  States  puberty  in 
the  male  usually  occurs  at  the  age  of  fourteen  and  a 
half  years.  In  tropical  climates  it  occurs  at  nine  or 
ten,  and  in  cold  countries,  such  as  Norway  and 
Siberia,  it  may  not  take  place  until  eighteen  or 
nineteen.  Vigorous  physical  exercise  tends  to  delay 
puberty,  anything  exciting  the  emotions  tends  to 
hasten  it.  Stimulating  foods,  pepper,  vinegar,  mus- 
tard, spices,  tea  and  coffee,  excess  meat  nutriment 
hasten  puberty.  A  cool,  unstimulating  vegetable 
and  farinaceous  diet  may  delay  the  development  of 
the  sexual  system  several  months  or  a  year. 

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THE  SIGNS  AND  CHANGES  OF  PUBERTY 

In  the  boy  the  signs  of  puberty  are  the  growth 
of  hair  on  the  skin  covering  the  pubes  and  in  the 
armpits.  Chest  and  arms  broaden,  the  frame  grows 
more  angular,  the  masculine  proportions  more  pro 
nounced.  The  vocal  cords  grow  longer  and  lower 
the  pitch  of  the  voice,  Hair  grows  on  chin,  upper 
lip,  cheeks,  and  often  on  the  body  surface, 

THE    SEXUAL    MORAL    LAW 

The  sexual  moral  law7  is  the  same  for  both  sexes, 
and  equally  binding.  It  may  be  summed  up  as 
follows :  ''Your  sexual  urges,  instincts  and  desires 
should  never  consciously  injure  an  individual  human 
being  or  mankind  in  general.  They  should  be  exer- 
cised to  further  the  value  and  happiness  of  both." 

THE  MALE  ADOLESCENT  AND  CONTINENCE 

The  perfect  carrying  out  of  this  general  moral 
law  implies  continence  on  the  part  of  the  male 
adolescent  until  marriage.  Continence  is  positive 
restfaint  under  all  circumstances.  Strict  continence 
is  neither  injurious  to  health,  nor  does  it  produce 
impotence.  While  self-denial  is  difficult,  since  the 
promptings  of  nature  often  seem  imperious,  it  is  not 
impossible.  It  is  certain  that  no  youth  will  suffer, 
physically,  by  remaining  sexually  pure.  The  de- 
mands which  occur  during  adolescence  are  mainly 
abnormal,  due  to  the  excitements  of  an  overstimu- 
lating  diet,  pornographic  literature  and  art,  and  the 
temptations  of  impure  association. 

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WHY  YOUNG   MEN   GO   WRONG 

Foul  thoughts,  once  they  enter  the  mind,  corrode 
it.  The  sensual  glance,  the  bawdy  laugh,  the  ribald 
jest,  the  smutty  story,  the  obscene  song  may  be  met 
with  on  street  corner,  in  the  car,  train,  hotel  lobby, 
lecture  hall  and  workshop.  Mental  unchastity  ends 
in  physical  unchastity.  The  habit  common  to  most 
adolescent  boys  and  young  men  of  relating  smutty 
stories,  repeating  foul  jokes  and  making  indecent 
allusions  destroys  respect  for  virtue,  In  addition 
there  are  such  direct  physical  causes  of  undue  ado- 
lescent sexual  excitement  as  constipation  and  alco- 
holism, and  such  mental  ones  as  nervous  irritability. 

To  the  constant  discussion  and  speculation  re- 
garding sex  and  its  mysteries  by  the  adolescent 
young  male,  must  be  added  the  artificial  idea  that 
idle  prattling  on  the  subject  is  a  sign  of  "manhood." 
Thus  many  young  men  whose  natural  trend  is  in  the 
direction  of  decency  and  right  sexual  living,  "step 
out"  or  "go  to  see  the  girls,"  as  the  phrase  is,  be- 
cause they  think  that  otherwise  "they  are  not  real 
men."  More  subtle  in  its  evil  effect,  yet  somewhat 
less  dangerous  physically,  perhaps*  than  the  profes- 
sional prostitute  is  the  lure  of  the  "hidden"  prosti- 
tute, who  carefully  conceals  her  derelictions,  and 
publicly  wraps  herself  in  a  mantle  of  virtue. 

PROSTITUTION 

The  training  of  the  average  male  mind  in  impure 
language  and  thought  during  boyhood  and  adoles- 
cence, the  cultivation  of  his  animal  at  the  expense 

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of  the  moral  nature,  often  leads  the  adolescent  to 
seek  satisfaction  by  frequenting  the  prostitute. 

Prostitution,  known  as  the  "social  evil,"  is  pro- 
miscuous unchastity  for  gain.  It  has  existed  in  all 
civilized  countries  from  earliest  times.  Prostitution 
abuses  the  instinct  for  reproduction,  the  basic 
element  of  sex,  to  offer  certain  women  a  livelihood 
which  they  prefer  to  other  means.  Love  of  excite- 
ment, inherited  criminal  propensities,  indolence  and 
abnormal  sex  appetite  are  first  causes  of  prostitu- 
tion. Difficulity  in  finding  work,  laborious  and 
ill-paid  work,  harsh  treatment  of  girls  at  home, 
indecent  living  among  the  poor,  contact  with 
demoralizing  companions,  loose  literature  and 
amusements  are  secondary  causes.  They  all  contrib- 
ute to  debauch  male  and  female  youth  and  lead  it  to 
form  dangerous  habits  of  vicious  sensual  indulgence. 

Prostitution  seems  inseparable  from  human  socie- 
ty in  large  communities.  The  fact  is  acknowledged 
in  the  name  given  it,  "the  necessary  evil."  Regula- 
tion and  medical  control  only  arrest  in  a  degree  the 
spread  of  venereal  diseases  to  which  prostitution 
gives  rise.  The  elementary  laws  on  which  prostitu- 
tion rests  seems  to  be  stronger  than  the  artificial 
codes  imposed  by  moral  teaching.  It  is  an  evil 
which  must  be  combatted  individually.  Men  are 
principally  responsible,  in  one  way  or  another,  for 
the  existence  of  the  social  evil.  In  the  case  of  the 
young  man,  abstention  is  the  only  cure  for  the 
probable  results  of  indulging  his  animal  passions  by 
recourse  to  the  prostitute. 

Prostitution,  both  public  and  private  is  the  most 

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dangerous  menace  to  society  at  large.  It  is  the  curse 
of  individual  young  manhood  because  of  the  ve- 
nereal diseases  it  spreads.  One  visit  to  a  house  of 
prostitution  may  ruin  a  young  man's  health  and  life, 
and  millions  of  human  beings  die  annually  from  the 
effects  of  poison  contracted  in  these  houses.  "Wild 
oats"  sown  in  company  with  the  prostitute  usually 
bear  fruit  in  the  shape  of  the  most  loathsome  and 
destructive  sex  disorders. 

The  development  of  self-control,  the  avoidance  of 
impure  thoughts  and  associations,  the  cultivation 
of  the  higher  moral  nature  instead  of  the  lower 
animal  one,  and,  finally,  marriage,  should  prevent 
the  young  man  from  falling  into  prostitution.  All 
the  state  and  medical  regulation  in  the  world  will 
not  protect  him  from  the  venereal  diseases  he  is  so 
apt  to  acquire  by  such  indulgence. 

FREE   LOVE 

Free  love  is  the  doctrine  of  unrestrained  choice, 
without  binding  ties,  in  sexual  relations.  For  alto- 
gether different  reasons,  however,  it  is  quite  as 
objectionable  as  prostitution  for  the  young  man.  It 
may  offer  better  hygienic  guarantees.  But  it  is  a 
sexual  partnership  which  is  opposed  to  the  funda- 
mental institution  of  marriage,  on  which  society  in 
general  is  based  throughout  the  world.  And,  aside 
from  the  fact  that  it  is  a  promiscuous  relationship 
not  sanctioned  by  law  or  society,  it  is  seldom  practi- 
cally successful.  It  cannot  admit  of  true  love  with- 
out bitter  jealousies. 


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SEX  IN  THE  ADOLESCENT  FEMALE 

(from  puberty  to  maturity) 

ADOLESCENCE  in  the  girl  is  the  period  when 
-*lLshe  develops  into  a  woman.  It  is  that  stage 
in  female  life  embraced  between  the  ages  of  twelve 
or  fourteen  and  twenty-one  years.  Elasticity  of 
body,  a  clear  complexion,  and  a  happy  control  of 
her  feelings  should  mark  the  young  girl  at  this  time, 
if  she  has  been  so  fortunate  as  to  escape  the  dan- 
gers and  baneful  influences  of  childhood  and  in- 
fancy. Her  numerous  bodily  functions  should  be 
well  performed.  Thus  constituted  she  should  be  in 
a  condition  to  take  up  her  coming  struggle  with  the 
world,  and  the  sex  problem  it  will  present. 

puberty 

It  has  been  noticed  that  in  the  case  of  girls, 
puberty  usually  occurs  earlier  in  brunettes  than  in 
blondes.  In  general,  it  makes  its  appearance  earlier 
in  those  of  a  nervous  or  bilio-nervotts  temperament 
than  in  those  whose  temperament  is  phlegmatic  or 
lymphatic.  In  the  United  States  fourteen  and  a 
half  years  is  the  usual  age  of  puberty  in  girls.  In 
tropical  lands,  however,  it  is  not  uncommon  for  a 
girl  to  be  a  mother  at  twelve.  Country  girls  (and 
boys)  usually  mature  several  months  or  a  year  later 
than  those  living  in  cities.    Too  early  a  puberty  in 

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girls  may  well  arouse  concern.  It  usually  indicates 
some  inherent  constitutional  weakness.  Premature 
puberty  is  often  associated  with  premature  decay. 

THE   SIGNS  AND   CHANGES  OF  PUBERTY 

In  the  girl  the  sign  of  puberty  is  the  growth  of 
hair  about  the  pubes,  private  organs  and  armpits. 
Her  whole  frame  remains  more  slender  than  in  the 
male.  Muscles  and  joints  are  less  prominent,  limbs 
more  rounded  and  tapering.  Internal  and  external 
organs  undergo  rapid  enlargement,  locally.  The 
mammce  (the  breasts)  enlarge,  the  ovaries  dilate, 
and  a  periodical  uteral  discharge  (menstruation)  is 
established. 

MENSTRUATION 

No  young  girl  should  feel  alarmed  if,  owing 
to  the  negligence  of  her  parents  or  guardians  to  pre- 
pare her,  she  is  surprised  by  this  first  flow  from 
the  genital  organs.  Puberty  is  the  proper  time 
for  the  appearance  of  menstruation.  This  is  the 
periodical  development  and  discharge  of  an  ovule 
(one  or  more)  by  the  female,  accompanied  by  the 
discharge  of  a  fluid,  known  as  menses  or  catamenia. 
Menstruation,  in  general  good  health,  should  occur 
about  every  twenty-eight  days,  or  once  in  four 
weeks.  This  rule,  however,  is  subject  to  great 
variation.  Menstruation  continues  from  puberty  to 
about  the  forty-fifth  year,  which  usually  marks  the 
menopause,  or  "change  of  life."  When  it  disappears 
a  woman  is  no  longer  capable  of  bearing  children. 
Her  period  of  fertility  has  passed.  In  rare  cases 
menstruation  has  stopped  at  35,  or  lasted  till  60. 


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HINTS  FOR  OBSERVANCE  DURING  MENSTRUATION 

When  the  period  arrives  a  girl  or  woman  has  a 
feeling  of  discomfort  and  lassitude,  there  is  a  sense 
of  weight,  and  a  disclination  for  society.  Menstrua- 
tion should  not,  however,  be  regarded  as  a  nuisance ; 
a  girl's  friends  respect  her  most  when  she  is  "un- 
well." She  should  keep  more  than  usually  quiet 
while  the  flow  continues,  which  it  will  do  for  a  few 
days.  Also,  she  should  avoid  all  unnecessary  fa- 
tigue, exposure  to  wet  or  to  extremes  of  tempera- 
ture. Some  girls  are  guilty  of  the  crime  of  trying 
to  arrest  the  menstruation  flow,  and  resorting  to 
methods  of  stopping  it.  Why  ?  In  order  to  attend 
a  dance  or  pleasure  excursion !  Lives  have  been  lost 
by  thus  suppressing  the  monthly  flax.  Mothers 
should  instruct  their  daughters  when  the  menses  are 
apt  to  begin,  and  what  their  function  is.  During 
menstruation  great  care  must  be  taken  in  using 
water  internally.  A  chill  is  sufficient  to  arrest  the 
flow.  If  menstruation  does  not  establish  itself  in  a 
healthy  or  normal  manner  at  the  proper  time, 
consult  a  physician  in  order  to  remove  this  ab- 
normal condition.  Any  disturbance  of  the  deli- 
cate menstrual  functions  during  the  period,  by  con- 
strained positions,  muscular  effort,  brain  work 
and  mental  or  physical  excitement,  is  apt  to  have 
serious  consequences. 

CONTINENCE  AND  THE  YOUNG  ADOLESCENT  GIRL 

Continence  is,  as  a  rule  more  easily  observed  by 
the  adolescent  girl  than  by  the    adolescent   youth. 

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Ordinarily  the  normal  young  girl  has  no  undue 
sexual  propensities,  amorous  thoughts  or  feelings. 
Though  she  is  exposed  to  the  danger  of  meeting 
other  girls  who  may  be  lewd  in  thought  and  speech, 
in  the  houses  of  friends  or  at  school,  she  is  not  apt 
to  be  carried  away  by  their  example.  Yet  even  a 
good,  pure-minded  young  girl  may  be  debauched. 
Especially  during  adolescence,  the  easy  observance 
of  natural  continence  depends  greatly  on  the  proper 
functioning  of  the  feminine  genital  organs.  These 
may  be  easily  disturbed.  The  syringe  used  for  in- 
jections, for  so-called  purposes  of  cleanliness,  is  in 
reality  a  danger.  The  inner  organs  are  self -cleans- 
ing. Water  or  other  fluids  cast  into  them  disorder 
the  mucous  follicles,  and  dry  up  their  secretions, 
preventing  the  flowing  out  of  some  of  Nature's 
necessities.  A  daily  washing  of  the  inner  organs 
for  a  long  period  with  water  also  produces  chronic 
leucorrhea. 

WHY   YOUNG  GIRLS  FALL 

Lack  of  proper  early  training,  abnormal  sex  in- 
stincts, weak  good  nature,  poverty,  all  may  be  re- 
sponsible for  a  young  girl's  moral  downfall.  As  a 
general  thing,  right  home  training  and  home  environ- 
ment, and  sane  sex  education  will  prevent  the  nor- 
mally good  girl  from  going  wrong.  It  should  be 
remembered,  though,  that  a  naturally  more  gentle 
and  yielding  disposition  may  easily  lead  her  into 
temptation.  Girls  who  are  sentimentally  inclined 
should  beware  of  giving  way  to  advances  on  the  part 
of  young  men  which  have  only  one  object  in  view : 
the  gratification  of  their  animal  passion. 

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The  holding  of  hands  and  similar  innocent  begin- 
nings often  pave  the  way  for  more  familiar  caresses. 
Passionate  kisses — -the  promiscuous  kiss,  by  the 
way,  may  be  the  carrier  of  that  dread  infection, 
syphilis — violently  awaken  a  young  girl's  sex  in- 
stincts. The  fact  is  that  many  innocent  girls  idealize 
their  seducers.  They  believe  their  lying  promises, 
actually  come  to  love  them,  and  think  that  in  grati- 
fying their  inflamed  desires,  they  are  giving  a  proof 
of  the  depth  and  purity  of  their  own  affection. 

Here,  as  in  the  case  of  the  young  man,  self-con- 
trol should  be  the  first  thing  cultivated.  And  self- 
control  should  be  made  doubly  sure  by  never 
permitting  one  of  the  opposite  sex  to  show  undue 
familiarity.  Many  a  seemingly  innocent  flirtation, 
begun  with  a  kiss,  has  ended  in  shame  and  disgrace, 
in  loss  of  social  standing  and  position,  venereal 
disease,  or  even  death.  The  pure-minded  and  in- 
nocent girl  often  becomes  a  victim  of  her  ignorance 
of  the  consequences  entailed  by  giving  in  to  the  de- 
sires of  some  male  companion.  The  girl  who  has  a 
knowledge  of  sex  facts  is  less  apt  to  be  taken  ad- 
vantage of  in  this  manner. 

MODERN   CONDITIONS   WHICH   ENCOURAGE 
IMMORALITY 

Excessive  Freedom.  —  The  excessive  freedom 
granted  the  young  girl,  especially  since  the  World 
War,  must  be  held  responsible  for  a  great  increase 
in  familiarity  between  the  adolescent  youth  of  both 
sexes.  Many  young  girls  of  the  "flapper"  type, 
in    particular,    are    victims    of    these    conditions 

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of  unrestrained  sex  association.  Sex  precocity- 
is  furthered  in  coeducational  colleges,  in  the  high 
school  and  the  home.  Adolescents  of  both  sexes  too 
often  are  practically  unhampered  in  their  comings 
and  goings,  their  words  and  actions.  The  surrep- 
titious pocket  flask;,  filled  with  "hooch/'  is  often  a 
feature  of  social  parties,  dances  and  affairs  fre- 
quented by  young  people.  Girls  and  boys  drink  to- 
gether, and  as  alcohol  weakens  moral  resistance  in 
the  one  case,  and  stimulates  desire  in  the  other,  de- 
plorable consequences  naturally  result.  In  the 
United  States  the  number  of  girls  "sent  home"  from 
colleges,  and  of  high-school  girls  being  privately 
treated  by  physicians  to  save  them  from  disgrace,  is 
incredibly  large. 

Parents  who  do  not  control  the  social  activities 
of  their  daughters,  who  permit  them  to  spend  their 
evenings  away  from  home  with  only  a  general  idea 
of  what  they  are  doing  or  whom  they  are  meeting, 
need  not  be  surprised  if  their  morals  are  under- 
mined. 

The  Auto.  —  The  advent  of  the  automobile  is 
responsible  for  an  easy  and  convenient  manner  of 
satisfying  precociously  aroused  sex  instincts  in 
young  girls  and  boys.  Often,  unconscientious  pleas- 
ure-seekers roam  the  roads  in  their  auto.  They  ac- 
cost girls  who  are  walking  and  offer  them  a  "lift." 
When  the  latter  refuse  to  gratify  their  desires 
they  are  often  beaten  and  flung  from  the  car.  The 
daily  press  has  given  such  publicity  to  this  civilized 
form  of  "head  hunting,"  that  it  is  difficult  to  sym- 
pathize  with  girls  who  are  thus  treated,    They  can- 

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not  help  but  know  that  in  nine  cases  out  of  ten,  a 
stranger  who  invites  them  to  a  ride,  who  "picks" 
them  up,  does  so  with  the  definite  purpose  already 
mentioned  in  view. 

Poverty. — Poverty,  too,  plays  a  large  part  in 
driving  young  girls  into  a  life  of  vice.  In  all  our 
large  cities  there  are  hundreds  of  young  women 
who  earn  hardly  enough  to  buy  food  and  fuel  and 
pay  for  the  rent  of  a  room  in  a  cheap  lodging  house. 
Feminine  youth  longs  for  dress,  for  company,  for 
entertainment.  It  is  easy  enough  to  find  a  "gentle- 
man f  riend"  who  will  provide  all  three,  in  exchange 
for  "companionship."  So  the  bargain  is  struck. 
These  conditions  exist  in  a  hundred  and  one  occu- 
pations. A  young  woman  may  go  to  a  large  city  as 
pure  as  snow,  but  finding  no  lucrative  employment, 
lonely  and  despondent,  she  is  led  to  take  her  first 
step  on  the  downward  path.  Soon  daily  contact  with 
vice  removes  abhorrence  to  it.  Familiarity  makes  it 
habitual,  and  another  life  is  ruined.  The  heartless 
moral  code  of  the  cynical  young  pleasure-seeking 
male  is  summed  up  in  the  cant  phrase  anent 
women :  "Find,  ....  and  forget !"  It  is  these  girls, 
who  are  victimized  by  their  lack  of  self-restraint  or 
moral  principle,  their  ignorance  or  weakness,  who 
make  possible  the  application  of  such  a  maxim. 

VIRGINITY 

Both  mental  and  physical  purity  are  rightfully  re- 
quired of  the  young  girl  about  to  marry.  How  shall 
she  acquire  and  maintain  this  desirable  state  of 
purity?  The  process  is  a  simple  one.  She  mast  let  a 

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knowledge  of  the  true  hygienic  and  moral  laws  of 
her  sex  guide  her  in  her  relations  with  men.  She 
must  cultivate  dean  thought  on  a  basis  of  physical 
cleanliness.  She  need  not  be  ignorant  to  be  pure. 
Men  she  should  study  carefully.  She  should  not 
allow  them  to  sit  with  their  arm  about  her  waist,  to 
hold  her  hand,  to  kiss  her.  No  approach  nor  touch 
beyond  what  the  best  social  observance  sanctions 
should  be  permitted.  Even  the  tendernesses  and 
familiarities  of  courtship  should  be  restrained.  An 
engagement  does  not  necessarily  culminate  in  a 
marriage,  and  once  the  foot  has  slipped  on  virtue's 
path  the  error  cannot  be  recalled.  These  considera- 
tions, together  with  those  adduced  in  the  preceding 
section,  "Why  Young  Girls  Fall/'  are  well  worth 
taking  to  heart  by  every  young  woman  who  wishes 
to  approach  matrimony  in  the  right  and  proper  way. 


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CHAPTER   VII 

SEX    IN   THE   MARRIAGE   RELATION 

THE   HUSBAND 

MARRIAGE  is  the  process  by  which  a  man  and 
woman  enter  into  a  complete  physical,  legal 
and  moral  union.  The  natural  object  of  marriage 
is  the  complete  community  of  life  for  the  establish- 
ment of  a  family. 

THE    MARRIAGEABLE   AGE   AND   ADAPTATION 

At  twenty-four  the  male  body  attains  its  complete 
development ;  and  twenty-five  is  a  proper  age  for  the 
young  man  to  marry.  Romantic  love,  personal 
affection  on  a  basis  of  congeniality,  mutual  adapta- 
tion, a  similar  social  sphere  of  life,  should  determine 
his  choice.  Nature  and  custom  indicate  that  the 
husband  should  be  somewhat  older  than  the  wife. 

MEN    WHO    SHOULD    NOT    MARRY 

Men  suffering  with  diseases  which  may  be  com- 
municated by  contagion  or  heredity  should  not 
marry.  These  diseases  include :  tuberculosis,  syphi- 
lis, cancer,  leprosy,  epilepsy  and  some  nervous  dis- 
orders, some  skin  diseases  and  insanity.  A  worn-out 
rake  has  no  business  to  marry,  since  marriage  is  not 
a  hospital  for  the  treatment  of  disease,  or  a  reforma- 
tory institution  for  moral  lepers.     Those  having  a 

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marked  tendency  to  disease  must  not  marry  those 
of  similar  tendency.  The  marriage  of  cousins  is  not 
to  be  advocated.  The  blood  relation  tends  to  bring 
together  persons  with  similar  morbid  tendencies. 
Where  both  are  healthy,  however,  there  seems  to  be 
no  special  liability  to  mental  incompetency,  though 
such  marriages  are  accused  of  producing  defective 
or  idiot  children.  Men  suffering  from  congenital 
defects  should  not  marry.  Natural  blindness,  deaf- 
ness, muteness,  and  congenital  deformities  of  limb 
are  more  or  less  likely  to  be  passed  on  to  their  chil- 
dren. There  are  cases  of  natural  blindness,  though, 
to  which  this  rule  does  not  apply.  Criminals,  alco- 
holics, and  persons  disproportionate  in  size  should 
not  marry.  In  the  last-mentioned,  lack  of  mutual 
physical  adaptability  may  produce  much  unhappi- 
ness,  especially  on  the  part  of  the  wife.  Serious 
local  disease,  sterility,  and  great  risk  in  childbirth 
may  result.  Disparity  of  years,  disparity  of  race,  a 
poverty  which  will  not  permit  the  proper  raising  of 
children,  undesirable  moral  character  are  all  good 
reasons  for  not  marrying. 

MEDICAL   EXAMINATION    BEFORE    MARRIAGE 

Medical  examination  as  a  preliminary  to  marriage 
is  practically  more  valuable  than  a  marriage  license. 
Since  many  entirely  innocent  young  girls  to-day 
suffer  from  disease,  incurred  either  through  heredi- 
tary or  accidental  infection,  a  would-be  husband 
may  be  said  to  be  quite  as  much  entitled  to  protec- 
tion as  his  bride-to-be.  Prohibitive  physical  defects 
are  also  discovered  in  this  connection. 

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THE    WIFE 

GIRLS  marry,  in  the  final  analysis,  because  love 
for  the  male  is  an  innate  natural  principle  of 
the  female  nature.  At  its  best  this  love  is  pure  and 
chaste.  The  good  woman  realizes  that  its  first  pur- 
pose is  not  mere  carnal  pleasure.  It  is  a  special 
avowal  of  the  wife's  relations  to  her  husband,  and 
its  natural  as  well  as  moral  end  is  the  establishment 
of  the  family  on  the  basis  of  a  healthy  progeny. 

BEFORE    MARRIAGE 

The  wife-to-be,  like  her  prospective  husband,  will 
be  well  advised  to  ask  for  a  medical  health  certifi- 
cate. No  man,  no  matter  how  good  his  reputation 
may  be,  should  marry  (on  his  own  account  as  well 
as  that  of  the  girl)  without  thorough  examination 
by  a  physician.  The  consequences  of  venereal  infec- 
tion administered  to  unborn  children  by  their  par- 
ents are  too  horrible  to  allow  of  any  risk  being 
taken.  Another  bit  of  advice,  which  cannot  be  too 
highly  commended,  is  that  the  prospective  husband 
and  wife,  before  they  marry,  have  a  plain  talk  with 
each  other  regarding  individual  sexual  peculiarities 
and  needs.  A  heart-to-heart  talk  of  this  kind  would 

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be  apt  to  prevent  great  disappointments  and  incom- 
patibilities which  otherwise  may  become  permanent. 

THE    WIFE   AND    HER-   POSITION 

The  natural  instinct  of  a  man  is  to  seek  his  mate. 
On  her  he  depends  for  an  orderly  and  lawful  indul- 
gence of  his  sex  demands.  The  greatest  longevity 
and  best  health  are  to  be  found  among  happily  mar- 
ried fathers  and  mothers.  No  young  woman  should 
marry  without  a  full  knowledge  of  her  sex  duties 
to  her  husband.  And  she  should  never  consum- 
mate the  marriage  vow  grudgingly. 

CHILDBIRTH    HYGIENE 

Childbirth  is  the  natural  consequence  of  marriage. 
Its  processes  have  already  been  explained  in  Chap- 
ter II  of  this  book.  There  are,  however,  some 
hygienic  facts  in  connection  with  it  which  should 
be  noted.  Once  pregnancy  is  established,  as  soon  as 
the  fact  is  suspected,  the  mother-to-be  should  look 
on  the  little  embryo  as  already  a  member  of  the 
family.  Every  act  of  each  parent  should  now  be 
performed  (at  least  to  some  degree)  with  reference 
to  the  forthcoming  infant.  The  mother's  thoughts 
should  be  directed  to  it  as  much  as  possible.  Men- 
tally she  should  read  literature  of  a  lofty  and  enno- 
bling character.  The  theory  is  that  this  serves  a 
good  purpose  in  producing  a  more  perfect,  healthy 
and  intelligent  child.  Physically,  she  should  take 
plenty  of  active  exercise  during  gestation.  Active 
exercise  does  not,  of  course,  mean  violent  exercise. 
And  she  should  use  a  "Health  Lift."    During  this 

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time  she  should  subsist  as  far  as  possible  on  a  fari- 
naceous diet,  fruits  and  vegetables.  The  foods 
should  be  plainly  cooked,  without  spices.  If  all  else 
is  as  it  should  be,  the  birth  of  the  child  at  the  end 
of  the  customary  nine  months  will  be  attended  by 
comparatively  little  pain  and  danger. 

HOW   OFTEN   SHOULD  CHILDBIRTH   TAKE   PLACE? 

It  is  most  important  that  the  childbearing  wife  and 
mother  have  a  long  period  of  rest  between  births. 
At  least  one  year  should  separate  a  birth  and  the 
conception  following  it.  This  means  that  about  two 
years  should  elapse  between  two  births.  If  this  rule 
be  followed,  the  wife  will  retain  her  health,  and  her 
children  will  also  be  healthy.  It  is  far  better  to  give 
birth  to  seven  children,  who  will  live  and  be  healthy, 
than  to  bear  fourteen,  of  whom  seven  are  likely  to 
die,  while  the  numerous  successive  births  wear  out 
and  age  the  unfortunate  mother. 

MATRIMONIAL   ADJUSTMENT 

The  above  paragraph  deals  with  one  detail  of 
what  might  be  called  "matrimonial  adjustment." 
This  adjustment  or  compromise  is  a  feature  of  all 
successful  marriages.  The  individual  cravings  of 
husband  and  wife  must  be  reconciled  by  mutual 
good  will  and  forbearance  if  they  are  to  be  happy. 
Attention  should  be  paid  in  particular  to  not  allow- 
ing habit,  "the  worst  foe  of  married  happiness,"  to 
become  too  well  established  in  the  home,  and  to  cul- 
tivate that  love  and  affection  which  survives  the 
decline  of  the  sexual  faculties. 

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THE  IDEAL    MARRIAGE 


The  ideal  marriage  is  the  one  in  which  affection 
combines  to  bring  happiness  to  both  partners  in  a 
sane  union  of  sex  and  soul.  As  one  commentator 
has  rather  unhappily  expressed  it :  "When  married 
the  battle  for  one  united  and  harmonious  life  really 
begins!"  It  is,  indeed,  but  too  often  a  battle!  For- 
bearance, consideration  and  respect  must  be  the 
foundation  on  which  the  ideal  married  state  is  built. 
The  husband  should  realize  that  his  wife's  love  for 
him  induces  her  to  allow  privileges  of  a  personal 
nature  which  her  innate  chastity  and  timidity  might 
otherwise  refuse.  In  return,  he  should  accept  these 
privileges  with  consideration.  He  should,  in  partic- 
ular, on  his  wedding  night,  take  care  not  to  shock 
his  young  bride's  sensibilities.  He  may  easily  give 
her  a  shock  from  which  she  will  not  recover  for 
years,  and  lead  her  to  form  an  antipathy  against 
the  very  act  which  is  "the  bond  and  seal  of  a  truly 
happy  married  life." 

BIRTH    CONTROL 

Material  changes  have  taken  place  in  the  birth- 
rate of  a  number  of  countries  during  the  past  fifteen 
or  twenty  years  which  cannot  be  attributed  to  purely 
economic  causes.  They  do  not  seem  to  depend  on 
such  things  as  trade,  employment  and  prices;  but 
on  the  spread  of  an  idea  or  influence  whose  tendency 
must  be  deplored,  that  of  "birth  control,"  a  phrase 
much  heard  in  these  days. 

The  fact  that  a  decline  in  human  fertility  and  a 

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falling  birth  rate  are  most  noticeable  in  the  relatively 
prosperous  countries  is  a  proof  that  it  does  not  pro- 
ceed from  economic  causes;  but  is  due  rather  to 
the  spread  of  the  doctrine  that  it  is  permissible  to 
restrict  or  control  birth.  In  such  countries  as  the 
United  States,  England  and  Australasia,  where  the 
standards  of  human  comfort  and  living  are  notori- 
ously high,  the  decline  in  the  birth  rate  has  been 
most  noticeable.  On  the  other  hand,  we  find  per- 
haps the  greatest  decline  in  the  birth  rate  in  France 
a  country  where  the  general  well-being  probably 
reaches  a  lower  depth  in  the  community  than  in  any 
other  part  of  Europe.  A  comparison  of  the  birth 
rates  of  France  and  of  Ireland,  for  example,  offer 
a  valuable  illustration  of  the  point  under  considera- 
tion. In  France,  more  than  half  the  women  who 
have  reached  the  age  of  nubility  are  married;  in 
Ireland,  generally  speaking,  less  than  a  third.  In 
both  countries  the  crude  birth  rate  is  far  below  that 
in  other  European  lands.  Yet  the  fertility  of  the 
Irish  wife  exceeded  that  of  her  French  compeer  by 
44  per  cent  in  1880,  and  by  no  less  than  84  per  cent 
in  1900.  And  since  that  time  the  prolificity  of  the 
Irish  mother  has  so  increased  that  she  is  now,  ap- 
proximately speaking,  inferior  only  to  the  Dutch  or 
Finnish  mother  in  this  respect. 

In  general,  in  any  country  where  we  find  a 
diminished  prolificity  a  falling  off  of  childbirth  ten- 
accompanied  by  a  decrease  in  the  number  of  mar- 
riages occurring  at  the  reproductive  ages,  we  may 
attribute  this  decrease  to  voluntary  restriction  of 
childbearing  on  the  part  of  the  married,  or  in  other 

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words,  to  the  prevelance  of  "birth  control."  This 
incidentally,  is  not  a  theoretical  statement,  but  one 
supported  by  the  almost  unanimous  medical  opinion 
in  all  countries.  Everywhere  and  especially  here  in 
our  own  United  States,  we  find  evidence  of  the  ex- 
tensive employ  of  "birth  control"  measures  to  pre- 
vent that  normal  development  of  family  life  which 
underlies  the  vigor  and  racial  power  of  every  na- 
tion. These  preventive  measures  which  arbitrarily 
control  human  birth  had  long  been  in  use  in  France 
with  results  which,  especially  since  the  war,  have 
been  frequently  and  publicly  deplored  in  the  press, 
and  have  led  the  French  Government  to  offer  sub- 
stantial rewards  to  encourage  the  propagation  of 
large  families.  From  France  the  preventive  prac- 
tises of  "birth  control"  had  spread,  after  1870, 
over  nearly  all  the  countries  of  western  Europe,  to 
England  and  to  the  United  States ;  though  they  are 
not  as  much  apparent  in  those  countries  where  the 
Roman  Church  has  a  strong  hold  on  the  people. 

As  a  general  thing,  the  practice  of  thus  unnat- 
urally limiting  families  —  "unnaturally"  since  the 
custom  of  "birth  control"  derives  from  no  natural, 
physical  law — prevails,  in  the  first  instance,  among 
the  well-to-do,  who  should  rather  be  the  first  to  set 
the  example  of  protest  against  it  by  having  the 
families  they  are  so  much  better  able  to  support 
and  educate  than  those  less  favored  with  the  world's 
goods.  If  the  evil  of  voluntary  control  of  human 
birth  were  restricted  to  a  privileged  class,  say  one 
of  wealth,  the  harm  done  would,  perhaps,  not  be  so 
great.     But,  unfortunately,  in  the  course  of  time 

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it  filters  down  as  a  "gospel  of  comfort"— erroneous 
term!— to  those  whose  resources  are  less.  They 
accept  and  practice  this  invidious  system  of  pre- 
vention and  gradually  the  entire  community  is 
more  or  less  affected, 

The  whole  system  of  "birth  control"  is  opposed  to 
natural,  human  and  religious  law.  Nature,  in  none 
of  her  manifestations,  introduces  anything  which 
may  tend  to  prevent  her  great  reason  for  being— 
the  propagation  of  the  species.  Birth  as  the  nat- 
ural sequence  of  mating  is  her  solemn  and  invariable 
law.  It  is  in  birth  and  rebirth  that  nature  renews 
herself  and  all  the  life  of  the  animal  and  vegetable 
world,  and  her  primal  aim  is  to  encourage  it.  Hu- 
man law  recognizes  this  underlying  law  of  nature 
by  forbidding  man  to  tamper  in  a  preventive  way 
with  her  hallowed  and  mysterious  processes  for 
perpetuating  the  human  race.  Religious  law,  based 
on  the  divine  dispensation  of  the  Scriptures,  in- 
dorses the  law  of  nature  and  that  of  the  state. 

We  may  take  it,  then,  that  "birth  control"  repre- 
sents a  deliberate  and  reprehensible  attempt  to 
nullify  those  innate  laws  of  reproduction  sanctioned 
by  religion,  tradition  and  man's  own  ingrained  in- 
stinct To  say  that  the  human  instinct  for  the  per- 
petuation of  his  race  and  family  has  become 
atrophied  during  the  flight  of  time,  and  that  he  is 
therefore  justified  in  denying  it,  is  merely  begging 
the  question.  The  instinct  may  be  denied,  just  as 
other  higher  and  nobler  instincts  are  disregarded ; 
but  its  validity  cannot  be  questioned,  Whether 
those  who  practice  "birth  control"  are  influenced 

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by  economic,  selfishly  personal  or  other  reasons, 
they  are  offending  in  a  threefold  manner :  against 
the  inborn  wish  and  desire  which  is  a  priceless  pos- 
session of  even  the  least  of  God's  creatures,  that 
of  living  anew  in  its  offspring;  against  the  law  of 
the  state,  which  after  all,  stands  for  the  crystalliza- 
tion of  the  best  feeling  of  the  community;  and 
against  the  divine  injunction  handed  down  to  us 
in  Holy  Writ,  to  "increase  and  multiply." 

"Birth  control"  is  the  foe  to  the  direct  end  and 
aim  of  marriage,  which,  in  the  last  analysis,  is  child- 
birth. As  an  enemy  to  the  procreation  of  children 
it  is  an  enemy  of  the  family  and  the  family  group. 
As  an  enemy  of  the  family,  it  is  an  enemy  of  the 
state,  the  community,  a  foe  to  the  whole  social 
system.  Mankind  has  been  able  to  attain  its  com- 
paratively recent  state  of  moral  and  physical  ad- 
vancement without  having  recourse  to  the  dangerous 
principle  wThich  "birth  control"  represents.  Surely 
that  wise  provision  of  our  existing  legal  code  which 
makes  the  printing  or  dessimation  of  information 
regarding  the  physical  facts  of  "birth  control"  illegal 
and  punishable  as  an  offense,  can  only  be  approved 
by  those  who  respect  the  Omnipotent  will,  and  the 
time-hallowed  traditions  which  date  back  to  the 
very  inception  of  the  race. 


CHAPTER   IX 

SEX  DISEASES 

THE  sex  diseases  are  the  same  in  both  sexes, 
whether  developed  by  direct  or  accidental 
infection.  They  are  the  greatest  practical  argument 
in  favor  of  continence,  morality  and  marriage  in 
the  sex  relation. 

GONORRHEA 

Gonorrhea  is  a  pus-discharging  inflammation  of 
the  canal  known  as  the  urethra,  which  passing 
through  the  entire  length  of  the  organ,  carries  both 
the  urine  and  the  seminal  fluid.  It  is  caused  by  a 
venereal  bacillus,  the  gonococcus.  Under  favorable 
conditions  and  with  right  treatment,  gonorrhea  may 
be  cured,  though  violently  painful,  in  fourteen  days. 
Often  the  inflammation  extends,  becomes  chronic 
and  attacks  other  organs.  This  chronic  gonorrhea 
often  causes  permanent  contraction  of  the  urethra, 
which  leads  to  the  painful  retention  of  urine, 
catarrh  of  the  bladder,  and  stone.  Chronic  gonor- 
rhea, too,  often  ends  in  death,  especially  if  the 
kidneys  are  attacked.  A  cured  case  of  gonorrhea 
does  not  mean  immunity  from  further  attacks.  New 
infections  are  all  the  more  easily  acquired.  Gonor- 
rhea has  even  more  dangerous  consequences  in 
women  than  in  men.  The  gonococcus  bacilli  infect 
all  the  inner  female  genital  organs.     They  cause 

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frequent  inflammations  and  lead  to  growths  in  the 
belly.  Women  thus  attacked  usually  are  apt  to  be 
sterile;  they  suffer  agonies,  and  often  become 
chronic  invalids.  The  child  born  of  a  gonorrheal 
mother,  while  passing  through  the  infected  genital 
organs,  comes  to  life  with  infected  eyelids.  This  is 
Blennorrhea,  which  may  result  in  total  blindness. 
Gonorrhea  also  causes  inflammation  of  the  joints, 
gonorrheal  rheumatism,  testicular  inflammations 
which  may  lead  to  sterility.  Some  authorities  claim 
that  fully  half  the  sterility  in  women  is  caused  by 
gonorrheal  infection  of  the  Fallopian  tubes.  Gon- 
orrheal infection  of  the  eyes  at  birth  is  now  pre- 
vented by  first  washing  them  in  a  saturated  solution 
of  boric  acid,  then  treating  them  with  a  drop  of 
weak  silver  solution. 

SYPHILIS 

Syphilis  is  a  still  more  terrible  venereal  disease. 
It  usually  appears  first  in  small,  hard  sores,  hard 
chancres,  on  the  sexual  parts  or  the  mouth.  Then 
the  syphilitic  poison  spreads  throughout  the  wrhole 
body  by  means  of  the  blood.  After  a  few  weeks  it 
breaks  out  on  the  face  or  body.  Its  final  cure  is 
always  questionable.  Syphilis  may  lie  dormant  for 
years,  and  then  suddenly  become  active  again.  It 
breaks  out  in  sores  on  all  parts  of  the  body,  often 
eats  up  the  bone,  destroys  internal  organs,  such  as 
the  liver,  causes  hardening  of  the  lungs,  diseases  of 
the  blood  vessels  and  e>e  diseases.  Ulcers  of  the 
brain  and  nerve  paralysis  often  result  from  it.  One 
of  its  most  terrible  consequences  is  consumption  of 

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the  spinal  marrow  and  paralysis  of  the  brain,  or 
paresis.  The  first  slowly  hardens  and  destroys  the 
spinal  marrow,  the  second  the  brain.  These  dis- 
eases are  only  developed  by  previous  syphilitics.  As 
a  rule  they  occur  from  5  to  20  years  after  infection, 
usually  10  or  15  years  after  it.  And  they  usually 
happen  to  persons  who  believed  themselves  com- 
pletely cured.  Consumption  of  the  spinal  marrow 
leads  to  death  in  the  course  of  a  few  years  of  con- 
tinual torture.  Paralysis  of  the  brain  turns  the 
sufferer  into  a  human  ruin,  gradually  extinguish- 
ing all  mental  and  nervous  functions,  sentience, 
movement,  speech  and  intellect. 

One  danger  of  syphilis  is  the  fact  that  its  true 
nature  may  be  overlooked  during  the  first  period, 
because  of  the  lack  of  pronounced  symptoms.  Its 
early  sores  may  easily  be  mistaken  for  some  skin 
affection.  Mercury  and  other  means  are  successful 
in  doing  away  with  at  least  the  more  noticeable 
signs  of  syphilis  during  the  first  and  secondary 
stages.  The  modern  medical  treatment  using  mer- 
cury and  Salvarsan  (606)  in  alternation,  has  been 
very  successful.  It  is  claimed  that  by  following  it, 
syphilis  may  be  totally  cured  if  taken  in  hand  during 
the  first  stage.  The  sores  developed  during  the  first 
two  or  three  years  of  the  disease  are  very  infectious. 
In  the  case  of  a  chronic  syphilis  of  three  or  four 
years'  standing,  the  sores  as  a  rule  are  no  longer 
infectious.  It  is  possible,  however,  for  a  syphilitic 
of  this  description  to  bring  forth  syphilitic  children, 
without  infecting  his  wife.  Such  children  either  die 
at  birth,  or  later,  of  this  congenital  syphilis.     They 

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may  also  die  of  spinal  consumption  or  paresis  be- 
tween the  ages  of  10  and  20.  The  mortality  of 
all  syphilitic  children  is  very  great.  In  most  cases, 
however,  healthy  children  are  born  of  the  wedlock 
of  relatively  cured  syphilitics,  though  they  are 
often  sterile.  Young  men  who  have  had  recourse 
to  prostitutes,  often  inoculate  their  wives  with 
gonorrhea  or  syphilis,  and  thus  the  plague  is  spread. 

THE  SOFT  CHANCRE 

The  soft  chancre  is  the  third  form  of  venereal  dis- 
ease (the  hard  chancre  being  the  first  stage  of 
syphilis).  It  is  the  least  dangerous  of  the  venereal 
diseases,  but  unfortunately,  relatively  the  one  which 
occurs  most  seldom.  When  not  complicated  with 
syphilis,  it  appears  locally.  It  is  a  larger  or  smaller 
sore  feeding  and  growing  on  the  genital  organs. 

VENEREAL  DISEASE  AN  ADVOCATE  OF  CONTINENCE 

The  most  tragic  consequence  of  all  venereal  dis- 
ease is  the  part  it  plays  in  the  infection  of  innocent 
children,  and  innocent  wives  and  mothers.  Often 
a  pure  and  chaste  woman  is  thus  deprived  in  the 
most  cruel  and  brutal  manner  of  the  fruit  of  all 
her  hopes  and  dreams  of  happiness.  Similarly,  a 
young  man  may  find  himself  hopelessly  condemned 
to  a  short  life  of  pain  and  misery.  He  may  also 
suffer  from  the  knowledge  that  he  has  ruined  the 
lives  of  those  dearest  to  him.  Veneral  disease, 
syphilis  in  particular,  emphasizes  the  practical  value 
of  continence — quite  aside  from  its  moral  one — -in 
a  manner  which  cannot  be  ignored! 

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CHAPTER   X 

LOVE   AND    SEX 

WHEN  we  take  under  consideration  the  higher, 
truer  love  of  one  sex  for  the  other,  that  is, 
an  affection  which  is  not  simply  a  friendship,  but 
has  a  sex  basis,  we  realize  that  it  may  be  a  very 
noble  emotion.  There  is  no  manner  of  doubt  but 
that  the  normal  human  being  feels  a  great  need  for 
love.  Sex  in  love  and  its  manifestation  in  the  life 
of  the  soul  is  one  of  the  first  conditions  of  human 
happiness,  and  a  main  aim  of  human  existence. 

All  know  the  tale  of  Cupid's  arrow.  A  man  falls 
in  love  with  a  face,  a  pair  of  eyes,  the  sound  of  a 
voice,  and  his  affection  is  developed  from  this  tri- 
fling beginning  until  it  takes  complete  possession  of 
him.  This  love  is  usually  made  up  of  two  compo- 
nents: a  sex  instinct,  and  feelings  of  sympathy  and 
interest  which  hark  back  to  primal  times.  And  this 
love,  in  its  true  sense,  should  stand  for  an  affection 
purified  from  egoism. 

When,  among  the  lower  animal  forms  we  find 
individuals  without  a  determined  sex,  egoism  de- 
velops free  from  all  restraint.  Each  individual 
creature  devours  as  much  as  it  can  and  feeding, 
together  with  propagation  by  division,  "budding" 
or  conjunction,  makes  up  the  total  of  its  vital  acti- 
vities.    It   need   do   no   more   to    accomplish   the 

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purpose  of  its  existence.  Even  when  propagation 
commences  to  take  place  by  means  of  individual 
male  and  female  parents,  the  same  principle  of  ego- 
ism largely  obtains.  The  spiders  are  typical  in- 
stances of  this :  in  their  case  the  carrying  out  of  the 
natural  functions  of  the  male  spider  is  attended 
with  much  danger  for  him,  owing  to  the  fact  that 
if  he  does  not  exercise  the  greatest  care,  he  is  apt 
to  be  devoured  immediately  afterward  by  his  female 
partner,  in  order  that  no  useful  food  matter  may  be 
lost.  Yet  even  in  the  case  of  the  spiders,  the  female 
spider  already  gives  proof  of  a  certain  capacity  for 
sacrifice  .where  her  young  are  concerned,  at  any 
rate  for  a  short  time  after  they  have  crept  from 
the  egg. 

In  animals  somewhat  higher  in  the  creative  scale, 
more  or  less  powerful  feelings  of  affection  may  de- 
velop out  of  their  sex  association.  There  is  affec- 
tion on  the  part  of  the  male  for  his  mate,  and  on  the 
part  of  the  female  for  her  young.  Often  these 
feelings  develop  into  a  strong,  lasting  affection  be- 
tween the  sexes,  and  years  of  what  might  be  called 
faithful  matrimonial  union  have  been  observed  in 
the  case  of  birds.  This  in  itself  is  sufficient  to 
establish  the  intimate  relationship  between  love  in 
a  sex  sense  and  love  in  a  general  sense.  And  even  in 
the  animal  creation  we  find  the  same  analogy  exist- 
ing between  these  feelings  of  sympathy  and  their 
opposites  which  occur  in  the  case  of  human  beings. 
Every  feeling  of  attachment  or  sympathy  existing 
between  two  individuals  has  a  counterpart  in  an 
opposite  feeling  of  discontent  when  the  object  of 

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the  love  or  attachment  in  question  dies,  falls  sick, 
or  runs  away.  This  feeling  of  discontent  may  as- 
sume the  form  of  a  sorrow  ending  in  lasting  melan- 
choly. In  the  case  of  apes  and  of  certain  parrots, 
it  has  been  noticed  that  the  death  of  a  mate  has  fre- 
quently led  the  survivor  to  refuse  nourishment,  and 
die  in  turn  from  increasing  grief  and  depression. 
If,  on  the  other  hand,  an  animal  discovers  the  cause 
of  the  grief  or  loss  which  threatens  it;  if  some 
enemy  creature  tries  to  rob  it  of  its  mate  or  little 
ones,  the  mixed  reactive  feeling  of  rage  or  anger 
is  born  in  it,  anger  against  the  originator  of  its 
discontent.  Jealousy  is  only  a  definite  special  form 
of  this  anger  reaction. 

A  further  development  of  the  feeling  of  sympathy 
is  that  of  duty.  Every  feeling  of  love  or  sympathy 
urges  those  who  feel  it  to  do  certain  things  which 
will  benefit  the  object  of  that  love.  A  mother  will 
feed  her  young,  bed  them  down  comfortably,  caress 
them ;  a  father  will  bring  nourishment  to  the  mother 
and  her  brood,  and  protect  them  against  foes.  All 
these  actions,  not  performed  to  benefit  the  creature 
itself,  but  to  help  its  beloved  mate,  represent  exer- 
tion, trouble,  the  overcoming  of  danger,  and  lead  to 
a  struggle  between  egoism  and  the  feeling  of  sym- 
pathy. Out  of  this  struggle  is  born  a  third  feeling, 
that  of  responsibility  and  conscience.  Thus  the  ele~ 
ments  of  the  human  social  feelings  are  already 
quite  pronounced  in  the  case  of  many  animals,  in- 
cluding those  of  love  as  well  as  sex. 

In  the  human  animal,  speaking  in  general,  these 
feelings  of  sympathy  (love)  and  duty  are  strongly 

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developed  in  the  family  connection ;  that  is,  they  are 
developed  with  special  strength  in  those  who  are 
most  intimately  united  in  sex  life,  in  husband  and 
wife  and  in  children.  Consequently  the  feelings  of 
sympathy  or  love  which  extend  to  larger  communal 
groups,  such  as  more  distant  family  connections,  the 
tribe,  the  community,  those  speaking  the  same 
tongue,  the  nation,  are  relatively  far  weaker. 
Weakest  of  all,  in  all  probability,  is  that  general 
human  feeling  which  sees  a  brother  in  every  other 
human  being  and  is  conscious  of  the  social  duties 
owed  him. 

As  regards  man  and  wife,  the  relation  of  the  ac- 
tual sex  instinct  to  love  is  often  a  very  complicated 
one.  In  the  case  of  man  the  sex  feeling  may,  and 
frequently  does  exist  independent  of  love  in  the 
higher  sense ;  in  the  case  of  woman  it  is  quite  certain 
that  love  occurs  far  less  seldom  unaccompanied  by 
the  sex  inclination.  It  is  also  quite  possible  for  love 
to  develop  before  the  development  of  the  sex  feel- 
ing, and  this  often,  in  married  life,  leads  to  the  hap- 
piest relationships. 

The  mutual  adoration  of  two  individuals,  husband 
and  wife,  often  degenerates  into  a  species  of  egoistic 
enmity  toward  the  remainder  of  the  world.  And 
this,  in  turn,  in  many  cases  reacts  unfavorably  upon 
the  love  the  two  feel  for  each  other.  Human  soli- 
darity, especially  in  this  day,  is  already  too  great 
not  to  revenge  itself  upon  the  egotistical  character 
of  so  exclusive  a  love.  The  real  ideal  of  sex  in  love 
might  be  expressed  as  follows :  A  man  and  a 
woman   should  be   induced  to   unite   in  marriage 

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through  genuine  sex  attraction  and  harmony  of 
character  and  disposition.  In  this  union  they  should 
mutually  encourage  each  other  to  labor  socially  for 
the  common  good  of  mankind,  in  such  wise  that 
they  further  their  own  mutual  education  and  that  of 
their  children,  the  beings  nearest  and  dearest  to 
them,  as  the  natural  point  of  departure  for  helping 
general  human  betterment. 

If  love  in  its  relation  to  sex  be  conceived  in  this 
manner,  it  will  purify  it  by  doing  away  with  its 
pettinesses  and  it  is  just  into  these  pettinesses  that 
the  most  honest  and  upright  of  matrimonial  loves 
too  often  degenerate.  The  constructive  work  done 
in  common  by  two  human  beings  who,  while  they 
care  lovingly  for  each  other,  at  the  same  time  en- 
courage each  other  to  strive  and  endure  in  carrying 
out  the  principles  of  right  living  and  high  thinking, 
will  last.  Love  and  marriage  looked  at  from  this 
point  of  view,  are  relatively  immune  from  the  small 
jealousies  and  other  evil  little  developments  of  a 
one-sided,  purely  physical  affection.  It  will  work 
for  an  ever  more  ideal  realization  of  love  in  its 
higher  and  nobler  dispensations. 

Real  and  true  love  is  lasting.  The  suddenly 
awakened  storm  of  sex  affection  for  a  hitherto 
totally  unknown  person  can  never  be  accepted  as  a 
true  measure  for  love.  This  sudden  surge  of  the 
sex  feeling  warps  the  judgment,  makes  it  possible  to 
overlook  the  grossest  defects,  colors  all  and  every- 
thing with  heavenly  hues.  It  makes  a  man  who  is 
"in  love,"  or  two  beings  who  are  in  love,  mutually 
blind,  and  causes  each  to  carefully  conceal  his  or  her 

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real  inward  self  from  the  other.  This  may  be  the 
case  even  when  the  feelings  of  both  are  absolutely 
honest,  especially  if  the  sex  feeling  is  not  paired 
with  cool  egoistic  calculation.  Not  until  the  first 
storm  of  the  sex  feeling  has  subsided,  when  honey- 
moon weeks  are  over,  is  a  more  normal  point  of 
view  regained.  And  then  love,  indifference,  or 
hatred,  as  the  case  may  be  develops.  It  is  for  this 
reason  that  love  at  first  sight  is  always  dangerous, 
and  that  only  a  longer  and  more  intimate  ac- 
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tional qualities,  combined  with  wonderful  en- 
durance, always  control  her  intellect  more  power- 
fully than  is  the  case  with  man;  and  the  feelings 
and  emotions  form  the  conservative  element  in 
the  human  soul. 


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